Don’t Dwell in Your Shell

 


If anyone wants to stop by the house and see the girls or whatnot, the first thought I have is "Crap! I have to clean and dust and etc., etc." The second thought is "I don't have the energy or time to clean so it's whatever." There is literally no middle ground, and I am sure some of you can relate. 

Now I am not saying that I am a super clean freak, and everything has to be organized, my husband will tell you that I am probably the exact opposite because I can never find anything, but I want things clean and at least presentable. While sitting in the living room last night after the girls were in bed, I realized that my living area is a perfect example of how life is at this moment, chaotic and a little messy and very unorganized.

Moving through this week, I had a minor clarity moment last night; "If I continue to dwell on what is continuously going wrong and not allow myself even a small amount of time each day to reflect more on what is going well, I will continue to feel weighted down and miserable." I very much believe that what we dwell on is who we become. I don't want my girls to have a mom who is constantly on edge, irritable and negative. 

Just like with cleaning, instead of trying to do all of it at one time, take it room by room, I would like to start today off by just identifying three things I am grateful for and why that thing makes my life better. I know that yesterday I wrote about how I manage this massive cloud above me, and I don't have to have the answer right now, I just need to start somewhere.


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