Happy Mother's Day

 


Happy, happy Mother's Day to all the moms! Today is one that I have looked forward to for a while. I have gone from not wanting kids, to contemplating it, to losing a pregnancy, to having two miracle little girls. It is one of the best feelings in the world. 

I have had exceptional examples of what a mother is, and I've also had examples of what a mother isn't. One person that I have always been in awe of is my sister. She has moved through motherhood with grace and compassion. She has helped guide me through tough times and has answered my ridiculous questions. She is someone who I admire as a mother. 

Today made me think a lot about what a mother means and what determines if you are "doing it " right. Most days I don't know if I am doing it right, but I know that I am giving my girls what they need. I am greeted with smiles and the overwhelming feeling of love from my two little nuggets. I know that I don't have to be perfect for them, but I feel I need to. They love me just as I am, and I love them as they are. Why do I feel I need to be more than just me? 

When I look in the mirror, I do get upset that I don't "look" like I want to or what I picture as being desirable. My husband has never condoned my looks or anything but there is a sense of wanting to look good and usually it is based on other's expectations. I created and "grew" my girls for as long as my body would allow, and for that, I will always be grateful. If I don't look like the next best thing, I do know that my girls have a safe and comfortable place to snuggle. I am more than just what my body shows, and I know that my girls know that and everyone else in my life that knows me. I am proud of what I've gained over this last year, including a pound or two. Love yourself always!

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