Today Only

 


Does anyone ever wish that time could either slow down or be extended? I know that time is an illusion, right? It is something that we have created to help manage our lives and make sense of the world around us. I just wish that I had either more time or it would slow way down. 

I teach my clients that sometimes, we have to assertively slow time down and just focus on one hour at a time or even five minutes at a time. Life is overwhelming and sometimes all I can do is know what I need to do for the next hour and just focus on that. Again, another lesson that is easier said than done. 

There are several reasons why I want time to slow down, my littles are growing too fast (they are 8 months old today), I have too much to do in a day, and having quality time to myself or with my family is almost nonexistent. I am a great catastrophizer and I always look into the future. I know this is where anxiety lives, and I still go there. I can only manage what I have today though. I don't know what is going to happen tomorrow or in five days, but I have an idea of what will occur today.

I was talking with my husband last night and adjusting my schedule with the time that I am able too is what I need to start doing. If that includes waking up early, so I can have my coffee and 15 minutes of silence before the nuggets wake up; if that is taking my dogs for a 20-minute walk when he gets home; or if that is asking someone to watch the girls while I take a shower longer than 5 minutes. I can control these things and instead of looking at what I have tomorrow and getting anxious about having no time, finding time today that I can incorporate those little things. 

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